What are the results of your habits?”
Mark F. Weinstein talks about “The Results of Your Habits”
September 28th, 2009 by MFWeinstein No comments »Self-Sabotage Pattern #3: Logic and Justify
September 28th, 2009 by MFWeinstein No comments »It works like this: once you have reached a threshold of success – say, for instance, you have been running three times a week and are about to lay down the cash for your first 10K race – you may again find yourself in the territory of self-sabotage. The last thing that can “save” you from achieving your goal, the final gasp of limiting energy that can “help” you avoid totally taking on the confrontation and the commitment to having the life that you want and the goals that you are committed to achieving, the last obstacle when all else has failed to stop you is your brain. pg 59
Envisioning Positively Inspiring Success
September 27th, 2009 by MFWeinstein No comments »Remember, the brain is mechanical. When you articulate what gives you passion (perhaps starting with the things that simply give you pleasure) and then get in Action toward those things, you draw the positive Outcomes of that passion into your life. Those Outcomes can be anything – more time outdoors, more great moments with a partner, new travel experiences, more great success and respect in your field, fun with the kids, a new degree, a fitness program, etc. You put vivid pictures into your brain of that Outcome. You then choose new Beliefs, Habits and Actions that will take you right to the open doorway of that success, allow you to walk through it and live in the light of who you’ve become. pg. 94
Instead of suffering over it, reschedule it…
September 26th, 2009 by MFWeinstein No comments »Have you noticed that sometimes you get aggravated if you mess up your schedule – when you didn’t do what you said you were going to do, when you forgot to do something, when something got in the way or you were interrupted in the middle of something important? Starting right now, put negativity aside. What Limiting Habits are you invoking with these thoughts that are just making you wrong? Perhaps your “Hard on Myself Habit” or your “Perfectionist Habit?” How about a simple acknowledgment such as, “Oops, I missed that,” or “I didn’t finish that?” No self-judgment, just the facts.
Instead of suffering over it, reschedule it. Reschedule the meeting or workout, reschedule the piano practice and that hour to write. This is important because by taking positive, proactive steps, you get further into the “Success Habit” and “Feeling Good Habit.” As soon as you stop suffering, trust me, it’s going to be a lot easier to reschedule whenever a situation arises. pg 176
A Pattern Interrupt is straighforward and profound…
September 25th, 2009 by MFWeinstein No comments »It is a method to dig down to the core of your Habit mechanism, where your Beliefs reside, and make a shift. Even if you keep Beliefs (and they can be awfully hard to change sometimes), it is within your power to rewrite the script of any Belief and replace almost any Belief-Link by actualizing a Pattern Interrupt. You have the bolt-cutters for your Habit-Chains and the power to link yourself to different Actions. pg. 65
Watch Your Language Habits…
September 24th, 2009 by MFWeinstein No comments »Language Habits perpetuate the style and types of phrases we use while supporting and reinforcing our Beliefs and Habits. Language Habits are both external and internal, both negative and positive. The phrases we use may have come from our parents, teachers, friends, books or movies. Without realizing it, we adopted a Cluster of Language Habits that has nothing to do with success, happiness or fulfillment. Often what we think and speak is likely to become our reality. pg 277
Holding yourself accountable…
September 23rd, 2009 by MFWeinstein No comments »Your accountability is to be proactive, play big with this and reinforce the new Belief continuously. At every opportunity, in every scene or sequence in your life, play with visualizing your new intention, your new Belief, your new Outcome. Remember to keep these thoughts big and make your positive intention so huge that every time your Limiting Habit hooks you, you can dwarf it with your new Belief. Make sure you identify the Actions that are consistent with your big, new, invented Belief and bring about the Outcomes the new Belief supports. Practice this with discipline and persistence. pg 72
Self Reflection: What do you see?
September 22nd, 2009 by MFWeinstein No comments »Let’s do a little exercise. First, make a fist and hold it out in front of you so that you are looking at your knuckles. Got it? Now, extend your index finger. Does that feel familiar? Ok, good. Now, turn your whole hand around 180 degrees so that your palm is facing up and bend at the wrist so that your finger makes a U-turn in the air. Congratulations! Like all great CEOs—and remember, whether you’re a teacher, a teenager, a parent, or a partner, we are all the CEOs of our lives—you have just located the center of all power in your life. Right there, where your finger is pointing right now: at yourself! You have also just performed the first step of every Pattern Interrupt you will ever do. pg 83
Not a temporary solution… a life changing shift.
September 21st, 2009 by MFWeinstein No comments »You are not just putting band-aids on your life – you are going in deep to profoundly Shift the way you are in the world. You are debunking the myths inside your head, the “absolute truths” that are your old Habit-Stamped Beliefs, and you are giving them a reality check so that over time subtle changes start to manifest themselves. We never know where or how Shift will happen, at lest not exactly, yet the Shift is predictable. You can put faith in the fact that once you pull your habits into your conscious mind, focus on what you want in your life, and then put your attention on Pattern Interrupts, your unconscious mind will come along for the ride. pg 93
Each positive Action we take is one of accessing our greatness in the moment
September 20th, 2009 by MFWeinstein No comments »Each positive Action we take is one of accessing our greatness in the moment – even simple Actions like laughing and shaking your head at a moment of knee-jerk worry, or kicking your feet up, lighting a candle or a fire, and using your Powerful Head to meditate on gratitude and happiness instead of going down the road of over-thinking and getting stressed out after a challenging day at work. We make ourselves great one moment at a time, and moment-to-moment greatness takes discipline. pg. 86
Mark F. Weinstein
